It was just recently pointed out that my long term girlfriend, Kelly, has grown to be co-dependent regarding me. And I don’t necessarily mean that she is needy and only hopes to spend a great deal of time alongside me, I mean she seems to have to actually do every little thing with me or she won’t do anything. I mean that the lady will go out of her way to “care for me” even though i actually don’t have to have it and this hurts her and in addition complicates her life. She has got an actual disorder, co-dependency can be a real thing. I believe folks who are co-dependent are typically men and women that suffer from an unsafe love for another person and then demonstrate this love in harmful ways. I always just applied this as the joking term for clingy, little could I know I might undergo the real thing.
Her co-dependency was firstly pointed out to myself by a small number of of my guy friends, which includes my good friend Shane, though I blew these guys off. I thought their simply men that are lonely and also jealous that I have a girlfriend who loves me as much as she does. Then her close friends pointed this out which I considered had been a little bit odd, some people were truly worried about her. But again, I shrugged it off. Then the actual woman’s parents then my mother and father advised me they believed there was actually something greater than simply extreme clinginess going on. That’s whenever I recognized that there a serious kind of problem.
We went to a specialist who is a professional in human relationships and marriage. It was there that these people advised us that Kelly was in deed co-dependent. She is in love with me to a strong unsafe extreme. She won’t go to the grocery store or even have any kind of a real meal without me. She won’t see her close friends or family without me. She won’t function properly without me. Furthermore, the lady leaves work to make me cupcakes or something and bring these to my own work. And even though she gets in trouble for it and is always skating on thin ice at her work, she nonetheless does this simply because the lady really feels she needs to take care of me.
This has to change in the event the lady is to become well balanced and also if we are too last, and the truth is, it is certainly not probable that we should last, which simply sucks. The specialist wants her to continue coming back again for therapy. Her mother and father want her to go to Co-dependency Anonymous. This throws me off. What is co-dependency anonymous? There can’t really be a real co-dependency anonymous like there is an alcoholic’s anonymous. It’s not really that dreadful of a problem. And precisely what would this involve and precisely how would it help? Seriously, exactly what is co-dependency anonymous?